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The Whirlwinds of Divorce

Looking into
Deep blue eyes
Now darkened

Injuries
Of divorce
Encompass
Our Children

A whirlwind
Twirls the home
Into a far away place

Our differences
Leave the fruit
Of the marriage
Picking up the pieces

A parent’s passion
Raising children together
Lost forever
In the lust and dust
Of our souls

Bruises

Deeply imbedded
Their innocent souls
Injured,
In this war of lost love

Blistered hearts
Guiltless souls
Our children
Sailing this sea of life

Can the lighthouse be rebuilt?

Tonight, I have been thinking a lot of my two boys. My wife and I recently divorced about three or four months ago. Both our boys are having such a hard time coping.

I think one of the best ways to help our children cope with divorce is to try and stay friends with our spouses. I know this is hard to do, but if we can keep an open form of communication it is best for our children.

Secondly, I think keeping our children in a faith-based environment is another way of helping our children cope with the loss.

Lastly, letting our children know we love them every day is a good way to help our children deal with the heartache of a divorce. Letting our children know that is not their fault, and staying close to our kids in these hard times is a must.

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Have you always dreamed of an elaborate wedding reception, but
have become content with a simple reception to save money and/or
time? Well, you shouldn’t give up on your dreams. Your wedding
is a special day and you don’t want to have to look back wishing
you had done things differently. It is in your best interest to
create the wedding that will be most memorable and happy for
you. Despite widespread notions, having a celebrity-style
wedding reception doesn’t have to mean cleaning out your bank
account. By using some unconventional resources you can have the
wedding reception to rival those of celebrities, but without the
high cost.

Get Organized Before you can actually start putting your
celebrity-style wedding reception together, you need to get
yourself organized. Think about what you want. At this stage,
don’t worry about how much things will cost. When you get to the
shopping stage you will be able to determine what is feasible or
not. The main items you should include on your list are wedding
venue, decorations, food and drink, placecards, centerpieces,
and music.

Enlist the Troops If you want to save money on your wedding
reception-skip hiring a professional. These individuals are
typically highly skilled in what they do and their fees prove
it! Your best bet is to find people who are willing to help you
for free. You shouldn’t have look further than your family and
friends. Enlist the services of as many people as you can. This
includes children. Children can be especially helpful with
repetitive crafts, so include them in your wedding reception
plans. Don’t wait until the last minute to solicit assistance.
Let people know way in advance that you will need them to help
you with your wedding reception.

Time to Shop With your list of wedding reception ideas in hand,
it is time to start shopping. The venue for your wedding
reception will probably be the most expensive part of the
reception. Cheap alternatives that don’t look cheap include
restaurants and church halls. If you choose to have your wedding
reception at a restaurant, make sure that you can use your own
flatware, plates, and glasses. You can purchase elegant versions
of these at discount shops for less than $100, depending on the
number of guests you invite. Simplify food at your wedding
reception by having three choices from which your guests can
choose when they RSVP to your invitation. Caters charge less
when you order by the plate. As an added touch you can place a
delicious assortment of divinity on each table. For your
centerpieces and decorations, hobby shops offer the best prices.
You can find design ideas that you can create you and your
troops can create for very little. Placecards aren’t a
necessity, but if you have assigned people at tables, placecards
will help people to find their table. You can create your own
wedding reception placecards by purchasing an inexpensive
greeting card software program and elegant paper. You will need
an inkjet printer to print the cards. Unless you know someone
who will offer you a cheap price for wedding reception music,
skip the DJ and the live band. Creating a few CDs of various
popular love songs is a less expensive choice.

Reward the Troops A wedding dinner with the wedding party
(bride, groom, bridesmaids, groomsmen, parents) just before the
wedding ceremony is traditional. It is a good idea to either
invite your wedding reception helpers to this dinner or to a
separate fun event. At this event you should show your
appreciation for helping make your wedding reception the best
ever!

When planning a bridal shower, be sure to include fun games
appropriate for all attendees. If you are in need of a great
bridal shower game idea, consider taking favorite party games
and adding a matrimonial twist! When planning games for your
bridal shower, be sure to include games that can include guests
of all ages, as many brides wish to include younger individuals
on their guest list. By preparing games all parties can
participate, you will ensure the bridal shower is a great
success!

If teenagers or children are planning to attend the bridal
shower, you may want to consider putting a general rating on
your bridal shower game idea. Many games tend to be more
appropriate for an older audience and will be found too risque
to play in the presence of the younger crowd. Do not think that
the only fun games are risque games–many of these great ideas
are just as fun and much more accepting to a mixed crowd.
Consider planning a brief game at the beginning of the shower to
introduce everyone and serve as an icebreaker.

One great bridal shower game idea is a twist on an old
favorite–Bingo! You can either purchase pre-made Bingo cards
that have been designed in a wedding theme or choose to make
your own. These cards can be made quickly, easily, and quite
inexpensively. Instead of letters and numbers, use special
wedding themed words or phrases, like bride, groom, or I do.

A great way to entertain guests and save time in the planning
process for the wedding shower is to allow individuals to make
their own Bingo cards, which provides you with another great
bridal shower game idea. Provide the shower guests with pre cut
cards that have been already marked with the Bingo grid. Be sure
to have enough pens, colored pencils, or markers to go around so
that everyone will be able to participate in the creation and
decoration of her (or his!) own card. You may even want to
create a competition and have everyone vote on the best designed
and decorated card.

Be sure to provide guests with a list of potential wedding words
when creating their Bingo game card. After everyone has
completed and decorated the cards, begin the game of Bingo. Do
not forget to have prizes on hand prizes on hand for the
winners! This bridal shower game idea is great for including
everyone in the party.

Some Tips When Buying Wedding Cakes

When you want to knock their socks off; when you want them to stand up and cheer; when nothing but the best will do because it is your wedding day; that is when you serve a spectacular wedding cake.

Do not let the vision of confetti, the crash of cymbals, or the fanfare of trumpets deter you from attempting to come up with such remarkable wedding cakes.

Generally, wedding cakes are is the conventional cake being dished up to the guests at the breakfast after the wedding. It is characterized as a huge cake, different from the usual cakes we have on ordinary occasions. In most cases, wedding cakes are layered or multi-layered and are heftily decorated with icing, beads, and other embellishments that would reflect the grandiose of the event. On the top is a small image of a bride and groom.

Wedding cakes can go from the simplest to the most complex decorations; each has its own artistic distinctions depending on the creative juices of the baker. They should conform to the main purpose of the cake, that whatever embellishments it possess, it can still be edible and can be eaten.

Because the wedding cake is such an important part in the wedding celebration, here are some tips you need to know in case you will be buying a wedding cake in the future.

1. Check on the length of time required for you in ordering your wedding cake.

Time is such an important factor when making wedding plans. Of course, you would not want your wedding be hurriedly done or rushed. Because the wedding cake is a part of the wedding plan, it is important to devote an appropriate time in ordering wedding cakes.

It is best to ask your favorite bakeshop on the time frame that they usually give with regards to wedding cake so that you can make early orders if it will take such a long time to create your wedding cake. In this way, you will not be in a hurry coming up with a wedding cake to be served on your wedding day.

2. Verify the details of the cake and its cost.

A lot of couples are so fascinated with the luscious treats that go with their wedding cake. What they do not know is that each embellishment and every twists and turns embedded in the cake has a price.

Therefore, it would be better to clear it out with your baker how much will be the cost of every decoration are added features you wish to add on your wedding cake.

3. Tell your baker about the details of your wedding.

In today’s modern world, weddings are not just done in the church. A lot of ideas had come up in terms of wedding venues. Therefore, if ever you have any plans of having your wedding by the beach or anywhere else where it is open, it would be better to inform your baker about this.

In most cases, icings are vulnerable to environmental hazards. So, if the baker knows that your wedding will be a garden wedding or a wedding by the beach, he could make such arrangements with your cake in order to endure the environmental conditions where it will be placed.

4. In a budget? Why not decorate your own wedding cake.

It is not so uncommon nowadays to find somebody decorating his or her own wedding cake. In fact, it is a feasible idea especially to those who have a very tight budget.

All you have to do is to order a plain wedding cake and buy the decorations from the retail stores.

5. Choose the right bakeshop

If you have an idea on where the best bakery is in your city, then head to that place immediately. You can ask suggestions from your friends or family members also. Get a reservation at once. Do not procrastinate. The availability of cake decorators might be restricted. Be sure to drop by the bakeshop to talk about the designs, flavors and other things you wanted to add to your cake. Be sure to give a detailed description of exactly what you want your cake to be. Give the vendor ample time to prepare, approximately six months ahead of your big day would do. You may need to pay a deposit fee for reservation.

6. The right taste

Aside from the look of the cake, keep in mind that cakes are made primarily for eating. They should taste good as well as they look good. The texture and flavor of the cake itself is important. When scouting for a bakeshop, don’t hesitate to ask for cake samples of the flavors you want. If they do not allow this, jump to the next store.

7. Check on your budget

Wedding cakes ranges from $300 to $1000 or so. Cost primarily depends on the cake design you want. You have to pay for the cake decorator’s fee on top of the cost of the cake itself. Know what your budget is ahead of time. Some shops may give you free delivery too. Most bakeshop has a standard number of servings for each cake type. Know how many guests would attend your wedding so you would know more or less how much money you would allocate for the cake.

8. Flowers as decorations

Flowers have been a traditional thing on weddings. You can well put them in cakes too. You can either choose from fresh flowers or artificial ones. Fresh flowers are beautiful addition to your cakes. But it is very important that you choose fresh flowers wisely. Be sure that they are free from chemicals. Just to be on the safe side, sugar flowers are safer. These are edible gum paste decorations that have wire or toothpicks on them.

9. Where to place the cake

Most cakes, especially on summer, might end up melted under the heat of the sun. They can also cause flowers and flavored curls to dry up. Not to mention the possibility of flies gathering on your priced cake. Just be sure, always have a back up site where you can store your cakes to preserve its look and taste. Never place your wedding cake near the dance floor or where there is a heavy flow of traffic. You might just see your cake fall down. That’s not a good sight at all! Be sure to check the sturdiness of the table you would place your cake.

Buying wedding cakes can be fun and hassle-free. Remember that your wedding cakes needs to be presentable, most of the photo opts are done beside the cake. It’s always nice to give out that bright smile beside you’re well decorated cake that brings out your personal statement.

So, set aside some special decisive moment when it comes to your wedding cake because there would be no better way to glamorize your wedding than to have a perfectly made wedding cake.

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This article is to bring a little hint about Cambodian Law on Marriage and Family into the world’s attention. Throughout the text, from general information up to the analytical approached over the law herein will be covered.

This Law was adopted during the mandate of the State of Cambodia.

I. Marriage Procedure

Unless arisen from mutual agreement to enter into conjugal life, marriage cannot be proceeding. With reference to Chapter III, Article 3; “A marriage is a solemn contract between a man and a woman in a spirit of love in accordance with the provisions of law and with the understanding that they cannot dissolve it as they please.” This article has indirect imply that marriage is a voluntary decision and not decision made on the basis on any form of external pressure (Article 4 “One party may not force another party to marriage against his/her will. No one can be forced to marry or prevented from having marriage …)

In compliance to general principle of social-order mechanism, the Cambodian Law on Marriage and Family also requires other elements legal just to make any marriage a legal one. In Article 5 of Chapter II states, “A marriage may be allowed for a man whose age is 20 years or more and a woman whose age is 18 years or more.” Except, in the special case that the woman is pregnant with mutual consents from both party, a man and a woman younger than the legal ages may legally enter into a marriage.

However, marriage is prohibited under these conditions:

- a person whose sex is the same sex as the other;
- a person whose penis is impotent;
- a person who has leprous, tuberculosis, cancer or venereal diseases which are not completely cured;
- a person who is insane, and a person who has mental defect;
- a person who was bound by prior marriage which is not yet dissolved.

Moreover, marriage is prohibited when the following conditions come to existence:

A marriage “between persons who are relatives by blood or who are relatives by marriage in direct line of all levels, whether or not legitimate or adoptive” (Article 7); and
“Between the collateral, whether legitimate, illegitimate or adoptive, or whether from the same mother, the same father or the same parents, or whether relatives by blood or relatives by marriage up to the third level inclusively…” (Article 8).

II. Grounds of Divorce:

In reflection to Article 3, “A marriage is a solemn contract between a man and a woman in a spirit of love in accordance with the provisions of law and with the understanding that they cannot dissolve it as they please.” The term: they cannot dissolve it as they please shows an indirect implication that divorce can only be made under concrete and legal conditions stipulated within the law.

Like the legal procedure for marriage, divorce may also be made on the ground of mutual divorcing consent.

Pursuant to Article 38: “divorce is the legal termination of a marriage between a husband and wife who have been legitimately married and they are both still alive.” Divorce cannot be entered when any party is deceased, that’s why we have the term divorced and widowed.

Article 39 clearly tabulates the grounds for divorce as of the following:

1. desertion without a good reason and without maintenance of and taking care of the child;
2. cruelty and beatings, persecutions and looking down on the other spouse or his or her ancestry;
3. immoral behavior, bad conduct;
4. impotence of penis; and
5. Physical separation for more than one year.

III. Procedures for Divorce:

Procedures for divorce may be, to some extent, overwhelmingly sophisticated, since it has been of the opinion that divorce does not only bring negative aspects to the parties, but also to the society. The following paragraphs will deal with necessary reason for divorce, jurisdictional court, application procedures and other conditions applied in the divorcing procedures.

Complaint for divorce can be made by one party (husband or wife) or by both parties who mutually agreed to end their bonds of conjugal life (Article 40).

Any party or both party who whish to break legal bonds of conjugal life shall make the divorce complaint a formal one. Complaint to the court, as addressed above, is sophisticated and formal, so writing rather than oral is strongly suggested; moreover, the plaintiff is also suggested to lodge the complaint by her or himself. With reference to Article 42; “The complaint for divorce shall be in writing and shall indicate the reasons for divorce.” It is also suggested that reasons for divorce shall be contented in the divorce complaint; this is to make a smooth hearing schedule and procedures.

However, to whom should the divorce complaint be forwarded to? Article 41 stipulates that “the adjudicating jurisdiction for divorce lies with the People’s Provincial or Municipal Court where a defendant resides.”

Procedures before the hearing
As addressed above, divorce does not only affect the divorcing parties, but the child(ren) as well as the State. So, indeed, the Law enacts different strategies for the court to reconcile the divorcing parties.

According to the Cambodian Law on Marriage and Family, the court is authorized to take “reconciliation” for three times, before the final judgment specifying the divorce judgment between the parties is issued. Moreover, during each reconciliation session, report must be radically written down in what we call “reconciliation record.” And apparently, reconciliation strategies deployed to all the three reconciliation sessions are not the same. Article 51 states that “the period between each reconciliation shall be at least one month and at most two months.” And Article 53; “if the reconciliation did not reach an agreement, the People’s Provincial or Municipal court must issue summons inviting a husband and wife to come to the court for trial.”

Due to the fact that marriage cannot be dissolved as the party please, concrete and sufficient evidence must be presented during the hearing to convince the judge to issue the divorce judgment and if necessary, the court may investigate the case.

However, divorce is easy if it is arisen from voluntary and mutual consent of both parties [absence of mistakes or external duress].

Divorce judgment is not one-stop (absolute), the party who does not agree to get divorced his/her spouse is authorized an file an objection or appeal within the legal time frame [usually two moths from the date the judgment is publicly announced].

IV. Effectiveness of Divorce
The Law on Marriage and Family does not provide any definition for the term “divorce”, but through my understanding, divorce is a legal rescission of a legal marriage, after the divorce judgment is issued.

Article 69 states that, “a divorce ends a marriage from the day when the final judgment is announced. So as written above, only after the issuance of court’s judgment, does the divorce is considered legal and so enforceable.

However, the case does not only end when the judgment is issued; other cases are also accompanied, such as child or children and properties (movable or real estate). Divorcing parties may share the child or children as well as the property in accordance with their mutual contract or in case of there is no contract, they can just take the property that they own before they share conjugal life. Article 70 states that “if there is no agreement, each spouse take only his or her property which he or she has received by inheritance, gift or devise during the existence of the marriage. The property owned before union existence is called “separate property” and property earned after the marriage is called “joint property”, or “community property.” And this community property may be shared by mutual consent of the parties or court’s judgment.

Custody of the child or children, would facilitate one party to have more property than another party who does not attain the legal custody of the child or children. The party to whom the child or children custodies are not fallen upon, is obliged to provide alimony, as per his or her ability or mutual consent until the said child or children reach majority age (Article 76).

Lay Vicheka is a translator for the most celebrated translation agency in the Kingdom of Cambodia, Pyramid Translation Co.Ltd.. He is now hoding other two professions: freelance writer for Search Newspaper; focusing on social issues and students’ issues and Media Liaison Officer for Asia’s first free on-line IELTS consultation website. Lay Vicheka is the expert author for ezine and prolific article contributor to other websites around the world such as articlecity, 365articles, spiderden, talesofasia, etc (Just google him). He is also a volunteer Cambodian-newspapers columnist (Rasmey Kampuchea and Kampuchea Thmey). Lay Vicheka has great experience in law and politics, as he used to be legal and English-language assistant to a Cambodian member of parliament, migration experience (home-based business) and in writing. He is also member of a New York-based research company. Posting address: 221H Street 93, Tuol Sangke quarter, Russey Keo district, Phnom Penh, Cambodia. Tel: 855 11 268 445, vichekalay@yahoo.com

I’m certain you are all familiar with the old fashioned slide shows. Well a DVD slide show is completely different. Modern technology and software have merged together to give us the beauty and elegance of video, and apply that to our still shots. With the old fashioned slide shows you had a noisy projector which projected the images on a wall. I’m sure you all have memories of friends boring old vacation footage with the dad or mom narrating everything they saw or did on their trip. With DVD or Video Slide shows, now you can take your collection of photographs, put them in an order to create a theme, add titles, music, special effects and transitions making it into a spectacular video presentation. The beauty is that there is no noisy projector to lug around and no box of slides. All that stuff stays at home. The only thing you need with a DVD slide show is your DVD. Take that to any friends house, relatives house, or party, and pop it into a regular DVD player and show it on a big screen TV.

Now with the modern software available companies are creating DVD and Video Slide Shows and Photo montages for Wedding Receptions, Anniversaries, Birthdays, Graduations, Showers, and much more. Now any occasion can be made into a special occasion by having a DVD slide show or Photo Montage at a very reasonable price. Actually the term Photo Montage and Slide Show are interchangeable, there is no difference.

Wouldn’t it be fantastic to show a montage at your wedding reception of how you and your fiancee grew up and eventually met? Photographers generally charge and arm and a leg to do that type of work. Now with DVD Slide shows you can collect all your old photographs, send them to a company that specializes in DVD Slide Shows, and within a couple of weeks you’ll get back a Montage of your pictures with Music, Transitions, Titles, and Menus and it will be all ready to show at your reception.

What about your Parent’s 50th Wedding Anniversary. Why not give them a DVD Slide Show of their 50 years together. Better yet, If your having a celebration party you can surprise them and show the DVD Photo Montage at the celebration. Most facilities have DVD players a Large Screen TVs already on the premises ready for you to use for your special occasion. All you have to bring is the DVD.

That relative that you haven’t seen in years and is always bugging you for pictures of the kids. Give them one better. A slide show of your kids growing up over the last few years. The possibilities are endless. I’m sure you can come up with a few ideas yourself as to how to take advantage of this great and inexpensive method of dressing up old photographs. I hope this has cleared away any mysteries about what DVD Slide Show and Photo Montages really are and how you can use them.

Written by Frank Stone. A talented Videographer and Editor for Advanced Video/DVD Services versed in the art of videography and all things relating to it. If you would like more information about DVD or Video Slide Shows or Photo Montages feel free to contact us at advancedvide@yahoo.com or you can visit out web site at Advanced Video/DVD Services

What is more romantic for a bride and groom than looking inside of their wedding bands and seeing a personalized engraving with special meaning for them?

There are a few ways to accomplish this task that your jeweler will recommend and now some new processes available that increase the limits of the message that can be created on rings.

Let us review the traditional methods most currently being used in the marketplace.

First, there is hand engraving done by an artisan engraver using a hand tool called a graver. It is not a perfect process and the results will depend on the quality and skill of the craftsman doing the work.

Also commonly used is machine engraving which is much more precise but usually limited to one row of words using up to 20 characters to be engraved on the ring.

Now, a specialty process adapted to a not so new technology, called laser engraving, has opened up a whole new realm of possibilities for wedding couples who are thinking of engraving their rings. Wedding bands are now being created with entire messages that are clearly readable and up to 225 character long. This allows the ability to write whole passages, even entire wedding vows, on the inside of the wedding bands. Currently, bridal couples are choosing from civil vows, gay partner vows, religious vows, love poetry, Shakesperean Sonnets, and even writing their own vows..

This sentimental and romantic addition to your wedding bands can forever be a reminder of your love and the commitments made, and add a special and unique touch to your wedding day.

Jerry Biern is a well known designer and developer of unique products, especially for the jewelry industry. Rhode Island based, Mr. Biern blends his matter of fact writing style with a thourough knowledge of the bridal industry to bring informative and interesting articles to to all readers.

The decision for divorce is not always mutual. Although New Jersey allows one party to make the decision to divorce even if this goes against the wishes of the other party, you may be able to convince your spouse to reconsider. If you are faced with a divorce complaint here are some steps you can take to slow down the divorce.

When you receive the divorce complaint, the first thing you need to do is hire an attorney. Don’t expect that you can retain the services of the attorney you and your spouse have jointly used in the past. This would present a conflict of interest. Tell your chosen attorney that you do not want a divorce. Your attorney can then help you decide on a plan of action.

In states such as New Jersey, you generally have 35 days from the date of service to respond to the Complaint for Divorce. You’ll want you attorney to help you figure out the “date of service.” If you do not respond within 35 days, you will be defaulted and will have no standing to contest the divorce unless the default is vacated. “You simply can’t afford to bury your head in the sand even if you do not want a divorce” said attorney Karen Meislik.

Basically, if you are faced with a divorce against your wishes, don’t ignore the problem. Ignoring the Complaint for Divorce (or any legal papers, for that matter) will only complicate matters, make the whole process more costly, and will not stop the divorce. Personal injury attorneys say that they are frequently called at the last minute or even later by men or women who have been served with legal papers, and the delay never has made things easier or more comfortable for the caller. The bottom line is that is you are served with a Complaint for Divorce, you need the help of an experienced family law attorney even if you don’t want to get divorced, and you need it sooner rather than later.

For more information, feel free to contact divorce attorney Karen Meislik in Montclair, New Jersey (http://www.meislikfamilylaw.com).

After being together for a long time, the romance in most
marriages starts to fade. We want our love to never end and
desire to be closer to our partner but the stress and busyness
of life gets in the way. Interestingly many couples facing this
dilemma think their love has fizzled, when in actual fact, their
communication has reached a plateau.

In every relationship there are two levels of communication. The
first level is surface communication and the second is deep
communication. Surface level communication involves discussing
the details of daily life, like paying bills, sharing chores,
where to go for vacation, discussing the kids and so forth. Deep
communication is more intimate; it involves sharing your
feelings, hopes, dreams and fears. Deep level communication
occurs when an individual feels secure enough in a relationship
to be vulnerable with their emotions and be their true self.
It’s this level of communication that fuels the romance and
keeps the love alive in the relationship.

If you feel like your love is fading, evaluate the level of
communication in your marriage. Understanding why and how you
communicate is the first step towards improvement. Ask yourself
the following questions 1. While growing up, was communication
in my family encouraged or discouraged? Was it deep or
superficial? 2. Who was the better communicator, my mother or
father? 3. Which parent was easier to talk to? 4. Is my
communication style like my father or mother’s? 5. Would my
spouse say I encourage him/her to share vulnerable feelings? 6.
Do I feel like my spouse listens to me and values my thoughts?
7. When something upsets me outside of my relationship, do I
talk about it with my partner or keep it to myself? 8. Are there
situations where it’s hard to express my feelings or thoughts?
If so why?

Several factors influence your communication level, but
upbringing has the most dominant affects. Here’s an exercise
that will help deepen the level of communication with your
partner and build trust once it’s implemented.

Relationship Wish List: Both of you get a piece of paper and
write down 10 to 15 things, you want the other partner to do for
you (make sure it’s not degrading or painful). It can be going
out on dates every week, back rubs, letting you go out with
friends, etc. Be sure to include even those things you think are
petty and trivial, like putting socks in the blue laundry hamper
instead of the red one (it’s all part of expressing the real
you). Once you’re done, exchange lists and talk about it.

1. Were there things on your partner’s list you expected to see?
2. Were there any surprises on your spouse’s list? 3. How did
you feel about sharing your wish list? Hesitant? Excited?
Embarrassed, or relieved? If so why? 4. How do you feel about
doing the things your spouse wants?

If there are items on the lists that make you or your spouse
uncomfortable, talk about them and negotiate something else. No
one should feel coerced into doing anything uncomfortable,
because it damages trust. After reviewing and discussing each
other’s wish list, take one suggestion and implement it. Every
month add a new suggestion (from each other’s list) to your
routine, and continue to do so until the list is completed. The
key to success for this exercise is patience; don’t expect
perfection, be patient with each other as you try to establish
new routines in your relationship.

After being vulnerable with your true feelings, the level of
love and security in your relationship will grow. Especially
when both partners are accepting and supportive of the other’s
feelings and wishes. Under these conditions the level of deep
communication thrives and love flourishes. As your appreciation
for your spouse grows, the passion and romance is revived.

Ever since Queen Victoria wed in 1840, however, white has remained the traditional color for wedding gowns and bouquets. A woman then used her dress for Court Presentation after marriage, usually with a different bodice. It has been accepted taditional color of the wedding dress, but wedding gowns were not always white. The marriage of Queen Victoria to her cousin Albert of Saxe- Coburg in 1840 has had more influence on weddings than any other. Queen Victoria put the wheels in motion by marrying in white.

Though brides continued to wed in gowns of different colors, white was now set as the color of choice for weddings and has continued ever since. In Godey’s Lady’s Book, 1849, this statement was printed: “ Custom has decided, from the earliest ages, that white is the most fitting hue, whatever may be the material. It is an emblem of the purity and innocence of girlhood, and the unsullied heart she now yields to the chosen one.” There is an old poem about how the color of your wedding dress will influence your future: “Married in white, you will have chosen all right. Married in grey , you will go far away. Married in black, you will wish yourself back. Married in red, you will wish yourself dead. Married in blue, you will always be true. Married in pearl, you will live in a whirl. Married in green, ashamed to be seen, Married in yellow, ashamed of the fellow. Married in brown, you will live out of town. Married in pink, your spirits will sink.”

White is still the top favorite for wedding gowns an exclusive range of bridal gown in classic white color. Which have the’’sublime’’quality designed by couture designer Andy anand who believes that ‘’less is more’’, these bridal gowns are made like a ‘’piece of art’’ they are very light white and other shades of white color has been used to give it the classic touch yet they are modern.

Wedding gowns have not always been elaborate, as many are today. In the eighteenth century, poor brides dressed in simple robes. This symbolized to her future husband that she brought nothing with her into the marriage and would therefore not burden him with any debt. It wasn’t until the mid nineteenth century that the all-white wedding dress became fashionable. Up until then a bride simply wore her best dress, regardless of its color. In 1840, Queen Victoria’s pure white gown started the trend that many women follow today.

Ray Fran www.publiccitizen.net