January 2009

Start Up a Nude Photography Business

There are major obstacles to overcome to get into nude photography, not least of which is the need to practise technique. By its very nature there has to be at least one subject, and the big problem for the photographer here is image. To some the image of nude photographer is tied in with the “dirty Macintosh” brigade, with the false wig and dark glasses.

Not everyone believes the adage that an erotic photograph, does not have to be nude, and a nude photograph is not necessarily erotic. The biggest challenge is to find a suitable model, and certainly in small town rural backwater areas, it is not the brightest propaganda move to put an advertisement in the Post Office window. It is also suspect to approach someone in the street.

Impeccable credentials help here, an image of a bona fide photographer, with a studio, and a business card with a portfolio. A professionally created business card also helps; a ripped off part of an old envelope invites suspicion. It is not necessary to have a portfolio of nudes, but it is essential as an aid of creating the feeling of trust. It can be very helpful to not tell a prospective model what you do, but show them, and depending on their responses take it from there.

A lot of nude photographers start with a self portrait an this is better than nothing in some cases. There are several other methods that can be used to find people to model. Your first option is to hire professional (glamour) models. That can be expensive, and they’re not often familiar with that type of work. The second option is to hire amateur models, or perhaps even nude still life models, the problem here is that the latter will have no inhibitions taking their clothes off, and may be able to sit still and hold a specific pose for long periods of time, however they may not be the best models to animate themselves. The third option is not to pay a model at all, but find someone with a vested interest in making a portfolio work. Whilst thinking about this matter during the research for this article it occurred to me, that the ideal person, would be someone who would be prepared to model in exchange for a portfolio, or other photographic service. In other words, a model who has a reason to make the session work will undoubtedly put more effort into overcoming any technical difficulties. Perhaps you know someone who is pregnant who might want to model in exchange for the photos.

Secondly that type of model will produce better results, than some eighteen year olds with a perfect body and a bad attitude. A personal model with enthusiasm to explore different perspectives and techniques has to produce better results than a wooden, but perfect doll. It does not alter the fact that your model must be at peace with the thought of nude modelling as a whole, but a sensitive relationship with the photographer will work wonders here. The rules are no different for a photographer here than a portrait photographer, he or she must first have self confidence. If you cannot get that across to your model he or she will be reluctant to give it their best shot.

This type of photography is striving for a look that is natural, and even has a look that it has not been posed for at all. Comfort is essential not just physical comfort though that is important, but mental comfort, the model must be able to understand the concept behind what you are trying to do so that she can co-operate. You have to take the time to explain the techniques of flattering compositions, but equally the model has to work on being fluid and graceful in these motions.

A good relationship with your model built on confidence is essential when you come to evaluate and criticise the work. Your first session will create the tone for future work, but that is when a model will be her most nervous, a way of getting over this barrier might be to ask her to come accompanied, and that may make for a lighter more relaxed session.

Working with the same model over a number of sessions builds up a rapport, and helps the model learn what works in the images, and what doesn’t. She has to be able to see the completed image, before this is really possible. As the model becomes more familiar with how you work and experiences the crucial processes of making an image, the model becomes better at generating poses which work for you, and on the whole, the number of successful images increases.

The locations for this type of photography is not important in terms of the finished image, but it needs to be a little circumspect, or you have to take along a person who watches for stray wanderers if it is outdoors. Lighting normally seems to be better if it is natural, but a single candle can be effective particularly with the use of an older model.

It is important to think ahead before this type of assignment and instruct a model to wear loose clothing and possibly no underwear as strap marks into the skin can take a long time to subside and will ruin the final shots.

Once you have managed to break into this type of work there are many stock libraries that specialise in this type of work.

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Publisher & author: Roy Barker. Roy is the author of the popular ebook, Income from Photography - a downloadable ebook which guides the reader on how to make good money from photography. It can be viewed at http://www.profitable-photography.com. Other related and reviewed services & research sources can be found at http://www.profitable-photography.com/html/117/

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Short Guide to the Games Betting Fans Enjoy Playing: Gambling House Games of Luck

In case you haven’t caught on to betting room card playing, then do please read on…

Typically, a casino is an edifice that accomodates friendly gambling. Aficionados are encouraged to relax by having a bash at one-armed-bandits or trying out another wagers. Betting establishment games in the main have fully transparent likelihoods included that safeguard the gambling house preserves an interest over the gambling enthusiasts.

A legion of betting room games can goad you into being addicted rapidly. A case in point: the time-honored 1 armed bandit, a coin operated contraption with 3 plus drums which spin when a lever latched onto it is pulled. This instrument most often pays up in alignment with a combination of symbols observable on the panel of the machine. Regretfully, gaming hall games allow the delusion of ascendancy, hoodwinking the client: the punter is handed choices, but actually these won’t nix the player’s statistical negative odds. This is due to the casino not repaying the full amount as expected. This scheme is often seen at work in popular casino games such as seven card stud, dice games, roulette or blackjack. Five card stud is undoubtedly a highly popular casino game. The gambling aficionados, holding partially screened hands, are placing bets into a principal pot which is then given to the prevailing participant enjoying the winning hand. (Of course, the bluffer may well prevail)

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Commensurate with five-card stud, blackjack is likewise a very fashionable casino pastime. A considerable part of its is due to its peculiar mix of chance and cleverness & decision making, and a process identified as “card counting”. This is a craft in which players can significantly bend the odds of the game to give them the upper hand by both betting & tactical actions based on the hands shown.

Craps is a famous gambling hall game involving the roll of dice. Customers bet on the score of one roll, or on a series of cycles of 2 dice. Contrary to blackjack, there is no credible winning betting system you could profit from to bend the odds.

Roulette is an immensely popular casino based game of luck during which a croupier revolves a roulette wheel featuring thirty seven (European roulette) or, respectively thirtyeight (as applicable to Vegas roulette) distinctively numbered slots in which a white ball will come to lie, marking the winning number When a player happens to bet money on a single number and actually wins, which is to say they’ve got a lucky hand, the disimbursement will be 35 to one, the original pledge is paid out. Therefore in total it’s multiplied by thirty six.

It’s strongly recommended that you try to be watchful as well for these betting house games can be massively obsessive. A totally unacceptable number of lives are proven to have been wrecked thru addictive gambling and notwithstanding that it arguably might seem like quite fun, do aim to practise moderation.

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Sex or Gender

“One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman.”

Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex (1949)

In nature, male and female are distinct. She-elephants are gregarious, he-elephants solitary. Male zebra finches are loquacious - the females mute. Female green spoon worms are 200,000 times larger than their male mates. These striking differences are biological - yet they lead to differentiation in social roles and skill acquisition.

Alan Pease, author of a book titled “Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps”, believes that women are spatially-challenged compared to men. The British firm, Admiral Insurance, conducted a study of half a million claims. They found that “women were almost twice as likely as men to have a collision in a car park, 23 percent more likely to hit a stationary car, and 15 percent more likely to reverse into another vehicle” (Reuters).

Yet gender “differences” are often the outcomes of bad scholarship. Consider Admiral insurance’s data. As Britain’s Automobile Association (AA) correctly pointed out - women drivers tend to make more short journeys around towns and shopping centers and these involve frequent parking. Hence their ubiquity in certain kinds of claims. Regarding women’s alleged spatial deficiency, in Britain, girls have been outperforming boys in scholastic aptitude tests - including geometry and maths - since 1988.

In an Op-Ed published by the New York Times on January 23, 2005, Olivia Judson cited this example

“Beliefs that men are intrinsically better at this or that have repeatedly led to discrimination and prejudice, and then they’ve been proved to be nonsense. Women were thought not to be world-class musicians. But when American symphony orchestras introduced blind auditions in the 1970’s - the musician plays behind a screen so that his or her gender is invisible to those listening - the number of women offered jobs in professional orchestras increased. Similarly, in science, studies of the ways that grant applications are evaluated have shown that women are more likely to get financing when those reading the applications do not know the sex of the applicant.”

On the other wing of the divide, Anthony Clare, a British psychiatrist and author of “On Men” wrote:

“At the beginning of the 21st century it is difficult to avoid the conclusion that men are in serious trouble. Throughout the world, developed and developing, antisocial behavior is essentially male. Violence, sexual abuse of children, illicit drug use, alcohol misuse, gambling, all are overwhelmingly male activities. The courts and prisons bulge with men. When it comes to aggression, delinquent behavior, risk taking and social mayhem, men win gold.”

Men also mature later, die earlier, are more susceptible to infections and most types of cancer, are more likely to be dyslexic, to suffer from a host of mental health disorders, such as Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), and to commit suicide.

In her book, “Stiffed: The Betrayal of the American Man”, Susan Faludi describes a crisis of masculinity following the breakdown of manhood models and work and family structures in the last five decades. In the film “Boys don’t Cry”, a teenage girl binds her breasts and acts the male in a caricatural relish of stereotypes of virility. Being a man is merely a state of mind, the movie implies.

But what does it really mean to be a “male” or a “female”? Are gender identity and sexual preferences genetically determined? Can they be reduced to one’s sex? Or are they amalgams of biological, social, and psychological factors in constant interaction? Are they immutable lifelong features or dynamically evolving frames of self-reference?

In the aforementioned New York Times Op-Ed, Olivia Judson opines:

“Many sex differences are not, therefore, the result of his having one gene while she has another. Rather, they are attributable to the way particular genes behave when they find themselves in him instead of her. The magnificent difference between male and female green spoon worms, for example, has nothing to do with their having different genes: each green spoon worm larva could go either way. Which sex it becomes depends on whether it meets a female during its first three weeks of life. If it meets a female, it becomes male and prepares to regurgitate; if it doesn’t, it becomes female and settles into a crack on the sea floor.”

Yet, certain traits attributed to one’s sex are surely better accounted for by the demands of one’s environment, by cultural factors, the process of socialization, gender roles, and what George Devereux called “ethnopsychiatry” in “Basic Problems of Ethnopsychiatry” (University of Chicago Press, 1980). He suggested to divide the unconscious into the id (the part that was always instinctual and unconscious) and the “ethnic unconscious” (repressed material that was once conscious). The latter is mostly molded by prevailing cultural mores and includes all our defense mechanisms and most of the superego.

So, how can we tell whether our sexual role is mostly in our blood or in our brains?

The scrutiny of borderline cases of human sexuality - notably the transgendered or intersexed - can yield clues as to the distribution and relative weights of biological, social, and psychological determinants of gender identity formation.

The results of a study conducted by Uwe Hartmann, Hinnerk Becker, and Claudia Rueffer-Hesse in 1997 and titled “Self and Gender: Narcissistic Pathology and Personality Factors in Gender Dysphoric Patients”, published in the “International Journal of Transgenderism”, “indicate significant psychopathological aspects and narcissistic dysregulation in a substantial proportion of patients.” Are these “psychopathological aspects” merely reactions to underlying physiological realities and changes? Could social ostracism and labeling have induced them in the “patients”?

The authors conclude:

“The cumulative evidence of our study … is consistent with the view that gender dysphoria is a disorder of the sense of self as has been proposed by Beitel (1985) or Pffflin (1993). The central problem in our patients is about identity and the self in general and the transsexual wish seems to be an attempt at reassuring and stabilizing the self-coherence which in turn can lead to a further destabilization if the self is already too fragile. In this view the body is instrumentalized to create a sense of identity and the splitting symbolized in the hiatus between the rejected body-self and other parts of the self is more between good and bad objects than between masculine and feminine.”

Freud, Kraft-Ebbing, and Fliess suggested that we are all bisexual to a certain degree. As early as 1910, Dr. Magnus Hirschfeld argued, in Berlin, that absolute genders are “abstractions, invented extremes”. The consensus today is that one’s sexuality is, mostly, a psychological construct which reflects gender role orientation.

Joanne Meyerowitz, a professor of history at Indiana University and the editor of The Journal of American History observes, in her recently published tome, “How Sex Changed: A History of Transsexuality in the United States”, that the very meaning of masculinity and femininity is in constant flux.

Transgender activists, says Meyerowitz, insist that gender and sexuality represent “distinct analytical categories”. The New York Times wrote in its review of the book: “Some male-to-female transsexuals have sex with men and call themselves homosexuals. Some female-to-male transsexuals have sex with women and call themselves lesbians. Some transsexuals call themselves asexual.”

So, it is all in the mind, you see.

This would be taking it too far. A large body of scientific evidence points to the genetic and biological underpinnings of sexual behavior and preferences.

The German science magazine, “Geo”, reported recently that the males of the fruit fly “drosophila melanogaster” switched from heterosexuality to homosexuality as the temperature in the lab was increased from 19 to 30 degrees Celsius. They reverted to chasing females as it was lowered.

The brain structures of homosexual sheep are different to those of straight sheep, a study conducted recently by the Oregon Health & Science University and the U.S. Department of Agriculture Sheep Experiment Station in Dubois, Idaho, revealed. Similar differences were found between gay men and straight ones in 1995 in Holland and elsewhere. The preoptic area of the hypothalamus was larger in heterosexual men than in both homosexual men and straight women.

According an article, titled “When Sexual Development Goes Awry”, by Suzanne Miller, published in the September 2000 issue of the “World and I”, various medical conditions give rise to sexual ambiguity. Congenital adrenal hyperplasia (CAH), involving excessive androgen production by the adrenal cortex, results in mixed genitalia. A person with the complete androgen insensitivity syndrome (AIS) has a vagina, external female genitalia and functioning, androgen-producing, testes - but no uterus or fallopian tubes.

People with the rare 5-alpha reductase deficiency syndrome are born with ambiguous genitalia. They appear at first to be girls. At puberty, such a person develops testicles and his clitoris swells and becomes a penis. Hermaphrodites possess both ovaries and testicles (both, in most cases, rather undeveloped). Sometimes the ovaries and testicles are combined into a chimera called ovotestis.

Most of these individuals have the chromosomal composition of a woman together with traces of the Y, male, chromosome. All hermaphrodites have a sizable penis, though rarely generate sperm. Some hermaphrodites develop breasts during puberty and menstruate. Very few even get pregnant and give birth.

Anne Fausto-Sterling, a developmental geneticist, professor of medical science at Brown University, and author of “Sexing the Body”, postulated, in 1993, a continuum of 5 sexes to supplant the current dimorphism: males, merms (male pseudohermaphrodites), herms (true hermaphrodites), ferms (female pseudohermaphrodites), and females.

Intersexuality (hermpahroditism) is a natural human state. We are all conceived with the potential to develop into either sex. The embryonic developmental default is female. A series of triggers during the first weeks of pregnancy places the fetus on the path to maleness.

In rare cases, some women have a male’s genetic makeup (XY chromosomes) and vice versa. But, in the vast majority of cases, one of the sexes is clearly selected. Relics of the stifled sex remain, though. Women have the clitoris as a kind of symbolic penis. Men have breasts (mammary glands) and nipples.

The Encyclopedia Britannica 2003 edition describes the formation of ovaries and testes thus:

“In the young embryo a pair of gonads develop that are indifferent or neutral, showing no indication whether they are destined to develop into testes or ovaries. There are also two different duct systems, one of which can develop into the female system of oviducts and related apparatus and the other into the male sperm duct system. As development of the embryo proceeds, either the male or the female reproductive tissue differentiates in the originally neutral gonad of the mammal.”

Yet, sexual preferences, genitalia and even secondary sex characteristics, such as facial and pubic hair are first order phenomena. Can genetics and biology account for male and female behavior patterns and social interactions (”gender identity”)? Can the multi-tiered complexity and richness of human masculinity and femininity arise from simpler, deterministic, building blocks?

Sociobiologists would have us think so.

For instance: the fact that we are mammals is astonishingly often overlooked. Most mammalian families are composed of mother and offspring. Males are peripatetic absentees. Arguably, high rates of divorce and birth out of wedlock coupled with rising promiscuity merely reinstate this natural “default mode”, observes Lionel Tiger, a professor of anthropology at Rutgers University in New Jersey. That three quarters of all divorces are initiated by women tends to support this view.

Furthermore, gender identity is determined during gestation, claim some scholars.

Milton Diamond of the University of Hawaii and Dr. Keith Sigmundson, a practicing psychiatrist, studied the much-celebrated John/Joan case. An accidentally castrated normal male was surgically modified to look female, and raised as a girl but to no avail. He reverted to being a male at puberty.

His gender identity seems to have been inborn (assuming he was not subjected to conflicting cues from his human environment). The case is extensively described in John Colapinto’s tome “As Nature Made Him: The Boy Who Was Raised as a Girl”.

HealthScoutNews cited a study published in the November 2002 issue of “Child Development”. The researchers, from City University of London, found that the level of maternal testosterone during pregnancy affects the behavior of neonatal girls and renders it more masculine. “High testosterone” girls “enjoy activities typically considered male behavior, like playing with trucks or guns”. Boys’ behavior remains unaltered, according to the study.

Yet, other scholars, like John Money, insist that newborns are a “blank slate” as far as their gender identity is concerned. This is also the prevailing view. Gender and sex-role identities, we are taught, are fully formed in a process of socialization which ends by the third year of life. The Encyclopedia Britannica 2003 edition sums it up thus:

“Like an individual’s concept of his or her sex role, gender identity develops by means of parental example, social reinforcement, and language. Parents teach sex-appropriate behavior to their children from an early age, and this behavior is reinforced as the child grows older and enters a wider social world. As the child acquires language, he also learns very early the distinction between “he” and “she” and understands which pertains to him- or herself.”

So, which is it - nature or nurture? There is no disputing the fact that our sexual physiology and, in all probability, our sexual preferences are determined in the womb. Men and women are different - physiologically and, as a result, also psychologically.

Society, through its agents - foremost amongst which are family, peers, and teachers - represses or encourages these genetic propensities. It does so by propagating “gender roles” - gender-specific lists of alleged traits, permissible behavior patterns, and prescriptive morals and norms. Our “gender identity” or “sex role” is shorthand for the way we make use of our natural genotypic-phenotypic endowments in conformity with social-cultural “gender roles”.

Inevitably as the composition and bias of these lists change, so does the meaning of being “male” or “female”. Gender roles are constantly redefined by tectonic shifts in the definition and functioning of basic social units, such as the nuclear family and the workplace. The cross-fertilization of gender-related cultural memes renders “masculinity” and “femininity” fluid concepts.

One’s sex equals one’s bodily equipment, an objective, finite, and, usually, immutable inventory. But our endowments can be put to many uses, in different cognitive and affective contexts, and subject to varying exegetic frameworks. As opposed to “sex” - “gender” is, therefore, a socio-cultural narrative. Both heterosexual and homosexual men ejaculate. Both straight and lesbian women climax. What distinguishes them from each other are subjective introjects of socio-cultural conventions, not objective, immutable “facts”.

In “The New Gender Wars”, published in the November/December 2000 issue of “Psychology Today”, Sarah Blustain sums up the “bio-social” model proposed by Mice Eagly, a professor of psychology at Northwestern University and a former student of his, Wendy Wood, now a professor at the Texas A&M University:

“Like (the evolutionary psychologists), Eagly and Wood reject social constructionist notions that all gender differences are created by culture. But to the question of where they come from, they answer differently: not our genes but our roles in society. This narrative focuses on how societies respond to the basic biological differences - men’s strength and women’s reproductive capabilities - and how they encourage men and women to follow certain patterns.

‘If you’re spending a lot of time nursing your kid’, explains Wood, ‘then you don’t have the opportunity to devote large amounts of time to developing specialized skills and engaging tasks outside of the home’. And, adds Eagly, ‘if women are charged with caring for infants, what happens is that women are more nurturing. Societies have to make the adult system work [so] socialization of girls is arranged to give them experience in nurturing’.

According to this interpretation, as the environment changes, so will the range and texture of gender differences. At a time in Western countries when female reproduction is extremely low, nursing is totally optional, childcare alternatives are many, and mechanization lessens the importance of male size and strength, women are no longer restricted as much by their smaller size and by child-bearing. That means, argue Eagly and Wood, that role structures for men and women will change and, not surprisingly, the way we socialize people in these new roles will change too. (Indeed, says Wood, ’sex differences seem to be reduced in societies where men and women have similar status,’ she says. If you’re looking to live in more gender-neutral environment, try Scandinavia.)”

Sam Vaknin ( samvak.tripod.com ) is the author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East. He served as a columnist for Global Politician, Central Europe Review, PopMatters, Bellaonline, and eBookWeb, a United Press International (UPI) Senior Business Correspondent, and the editor of mental health and Central East Europe categories in The Open Directory and Suite101.

Until recently, he served as the Economic Advisor to the Government of Macedonia.

Visit Sam’s Web site at samvak.tripod.com

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Something Every Man Should Really Understand: All Poker Rakeback Offers

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Many a better has asked me “Why would I require a rakeback deal? I play in online poker rooms when I have an incentive.” What happens if one day you have the chance to take poker up as your career? There are numerous players in the poker world who lament not taking rakeback and today they have signed up for every last leading online poker web site and skins. Do not allow this to happen to you. If you are a better that wagers less than $1/$2 and then just bets when you are clearing bonus sign-up rewards, you are receiving normally around a hundred percent rakeback considering the bonus payment on your wager. A certain well known web site lately shut accounts of card players who logged into their web site merely to play this way. Nobody knows for sure whether this exercise will start off a more widespread trend. Should this happen then immediately a rake back offer is going to be extremely critical.

One day you may hit tiptop form and discover yourself very fortunate, even if you aren’t already. I was injured in an accident and happened upon online poker during my recovery, I have never had any regrets. That’s over two years ago now however I haven’t had to work in those couple of years because of betting and naturally rakeback offers. It’s always good plan to look ahead. Regard it an investment for the future, even if you do not consider rakeback is for you today it certainly might end up being an outstanding investment shortly, there is nothing to lose and everything to gain. If you are thinking about checking out a different rooms you really must find out about rake back deals.

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Money Making Idea - Building A Successful You

Okay, this is the first thing you should remember.YOU are the absolute most important factor for building your success to make money, whether your business is online or offline. This is a making money opportunity for everyone to consider.

I have personally researched successful and unsuccessful people throughout my history of resources and nearly all successful people have important factors in common. The same thing goes for unsuccessful people too. It’s all about your business attitude (confidence/competance), business plan, and well-being.

First of all, you must be willing to take action to change your life factors, without depending on others to take care of it for you, or waiting for that special miracle that will most likely NEVER happen. Most every successful person is willing to take action right away. Most unsuccessful people are almost clueless of what to do and often have a “book of excuses” or only wish that they could be successful without making the sacrifice.

That brings us to our first important factor… laziness and unwillingness to succeed. Laziness does not necessarily determine your failure. There are PLENTY of people who are extremely lazy that still have the drive to take it upon themselves and take action to improve their life. Most of the time, the reason is so they could stay just as lazy and still make plenty of money. Hey, whatever gives you the motivation, right? But, don’t confuse laziness with unwillingness. Often times, success is generated from being at the right place at the right time. But, I wouldn’t wait around to find out if that’s the case or not.

Success is brought by sincere ambition, with the unwillingness to fail. But, don’t keep poking at a dead horse hoping that it will kick back. There must be a strong business plan and it must be carefully thought out. BE COMPETANT and careful on what business you are plunging yourself into, before you sink to the bottom with it. Make sure you have a backup plan, even though you shouldn’t need it if your business plan has truly been researched appropriately.

The wrong attitude will not make a business work, I’m here to tell you. Most unsuccessful people will have bad attitudes brought on by personal friends/family, employment, lack of strive to succeed, or for whatever reason. Don’t let this take your success away from your future. Everyone is entitled to their fair share of success, but must be willing to make the change. Many will feel that there is not enough time, with everything going on in life, or they just aren’t smart enough to do so. That brings us to the next step.

KNOWLEDGE/INFORMATION is the key resource to any business and is absolutely the most valuable commodity that can be obtained. Now, in the “old days” before the internet was accessible, information was very difficult and inconvenient to reach. Now there are no excuses. We have the internet. The whole world is at YOUR fingertips and it’s up to you to find it, in the comfort of your own home of course.

Time does play an important role in research, as it does often take much time to find whatever it is you’re looking for. But, it’s not enough of an excuse to fail. It’s up to you to make today and tomorrow count! Opportunity doesn’t always knock on everyone’s door, so get out there and FIND IT YOURSELF. Find out what works for others and do the research to see if that’s what you’re looking for. It’s MUCH easier to make money than you may think, and I’m not talking about $20 or $50 dollars an hour. I’m speaking of 20, 50, 100 grand a month residual income. In other words, your business works for you, instead of the other way around.

Another important factor that cannot be overlooked is your health. Take care of yourself and yourself may take better care of you. Many things can be sacrificed to bring your success, but sacrificing your health should not be an option. Your success will not be as meaningful and fulfilling, if you can’t enjoy it!

So, remember that your steps are to:

Realize that you are in control of your future success to take action now.

Mild laziness is acceptable as long as you are willing to take the necessary steps to further your growth.

Do your research and get the required information to make your business work.

Maintain good health so you can enjoy your future!

But, until next time, please take care and have a wonderful time!

Jon Hancock is a successful internet entrepreneur and author for blogs, posts and article resources. Visit www.eC-A-S-I-N-O.com for top online gaming! Find great money making resources at www.eRewarding.com for 2 of the best money making idea programs on the net! Copyright Jon Hancock

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How To Overcome Your Shyness With Women

Don’t worry about. Many men are shy with women. Some don’t really get over it, but the good news is, most men do. Its just about self-confidence. Most men are shy because they fear rejection. Being rejected or turn away can be quite an embarrassing situation, but if you handle it right there’s nothing to it. This is a very normal reaction, but if you never take the risk, you risk losing the woman who might very well be the right one for you. Shyness shouldn’t hold you back.

If you continue to be dominated with your shyness you will live a life that is lonely and depressed. It will interfere with the natural ability to coexist with the opposite sex, you will just be holding yourself back from enjoying their company. If you are shy with women, you will lose the ability to communicate well with them, you will be too preoccupied with their reaction and your actions, in other words, you’ll be uptight. Shyness is easily noticeable, women will perceive this as a sign of weakness, thus losing the chance to really get to know you better. You don’t want that. Here are some tips and guides on how to get over shyness with women.

Build up your confidence. Do not be afraid of rejections. One good way in building confidence in getting over shyness with women is picking up or meeting women for others. When you do this, you eliminate the factor of the fear of being rejected. Since it is not for you, they may say no not because of you, but because of your friend. If you have mastered this, you may soon be picking or meeting up a girl for yourself.

Casually open up yourself to everybody, not just to women. Learn to smile a lot more, smiling is much more contagious than the flu. But don’t be too over eager do it gradually. In time you’ll be open up to everybody, even the women.

Don’t look at women as another being, treat her as a more refined guy friend. Be causal at firs, don’t look at her as a sexual object. Have a nice casual talk and things will just develop later on. If all your after is getting laid, women will see right through you. Be gentle with the women but don’t look a her as a goddess as well. If you act like the woman is too nice for you, you’ll never go anywhere. She will sense it and think as well.

Do not expect anything. If you get into her face expecting so much, you’ll be in for a lot of disappointment. This is how jerks are classified. Being too confident is also a bane in the dating scene. Just go with the flow of everything and enjoy yourself.

Do not be afraid of getting rejected. If you don’t take the risk you’ll never know if you could have had her as a great friend. The key in doing this is to stop taking things personally. Sometimes, there are people who don’t really mean what they say. You cannot be bothered if you don’t take it personally. Just don’t be too self-conscious, and soon enough you’ll get over your shyness with women.

Getting over shyness with women is not an easy task, but not impossible. You will just have to learn to trust yourself, try to socialize more. Get out and explore. Everything starts and depends with you.

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Getting the most out of online dating

Online dating is now more popular than ever with more and more singles from all over the world choosing to search for love on the Internet. Dating online is a fun, effective way to meet new people, make friends and form new relationships. If you’re new to the concept, though, the experience can be a bit daunting at first. Here are 10 handy tips to help you make the most out of the online dating world.

1. Be comfortable with your decision

Like lonely hearts ads and introduction agencies, cyberdating used to be thought of as a last resort, but that is no longer the case. Internet dating offers singles freedom from traditional restrictions such as distance and allows even busy professionals and single parents the chance to socialise and find love. Another great advantage of online dating is the fact that it offers the chance to know more about a person before you meet them and make a more informed choice about who you would like to date.

2. Find the site that’s right for you

There are literally thousands of dating sites out there, each catering for different people and their needs. Take your time and check out a few sites before committing to spending any money. Some sites are free to use and many sites offer a free trial, where you can search for singles in your area without paying any money up front. If a site isn’t quite what you hoped for, try another one. There are millions of people on the Net and plenty of places for them to meet. Keep trying and you will find the right place for you.

3. Be clear about what you want

Dating (both on and offline) means different things to different people. Some people are looking for a serious relationship, while some just want to chat, date or have casual relations. It’s important to be honest with yourself about what you’re looking to gain from the online dating experience, even if you’re just looking to try it out and have some fun. There are sites that cater for all forms of dating and some that are geared towards particular requirements. Being honest with yourself will help you make the right choice and avoid disappointment. When it’s time to put your profile up on the site, being honest about your intentions will also help you attract likeminded people.

4. Put up a good profile

Like all first impressions, your profile or personal page on a dating site is extremely important. A good profile should be an accurate representation of who you are. It should also be geared towards making people want to get to know you. Never put yourself down, especially when it comes to your looks. There is a difference between being honest and realistic and letting your insecurities take over.
Self promotion is not an easy task for most people, but it’s important to remember that there is nothing wrong with being aware of your finer qualities. Concentrate on things you like about yourself, your interests, your dreams and anything else that sounds positive. If you’re stuck, get your friends and family to tell you what they like about you and include that information in your description.

5. Upload your picture

Looks aren’t everything, but surveys have shown that most online daters do prefer to contact people who have pictures on their profiles. Don’t be afraid to upload a photo: a picture can make all the difference when someone is deciding whether to contact you or not. Even if you are unhappy with your looks, chances are there is someone out there who will find you attractive. Let him or her decide without adding apologetic comments about your looks underneath the picture. If at all possible, choose a picture where you are smiling and looking happy to add to the positive feel of the profile.

6. Don’t be afraid to contact people

If you joined a site to meet people, don’t be afraid of contacting others. After all, they are also on the site for much the same reason. If you like somebody’s profile - get in touch and let them know; you never know what might happen.

7. Treat people the way you would like to be treated

The novelty of online dating can sometimes make people forget there are actual human beings on the other side of the computer. Always be respectful of people’s feelings, even if it turns out you and the other person are unsuitable for each other.

8. Good timing

The beauty of cyber dating is that you can afford to take your time before meeting people in person. It’s good to get to know people online first, but if you feel the right moment has come to take things further - don’t be afraid of suggesting that. If you do, though, don’t take it personally if the other person is not ready yet. Let them take their time.

9. Be safe

When dating (both on and off line) always use common sense. While the majority of people have honest intentions, it pays to be careful. Beware of people asking for money straight away, or those starting your online relationship by detailing a story of woes and asking for your help. It is advisable to never lend or give money to people you have only just met online.

When agreeing to meet people you met online, always meet in a public place and let friends or family know where you are if possible. It’s perfectly acceptable to ask to bring a friend with you to your first meeting. Make a point of explaining that it’s nothing personal and be wary of people who try to pressure you into meeting them alone. Remember: It’s advisable to get to know people online and on the phone first before going to meet them in person.

10. Don’t give up

There are millions of people dating online at any given time and chances are that if you persist, you will find the person who is right for you. Don’t take rejection too seriously and keep trying. If one site is not working out for you, it may be worth trying another one and seeing if you have better luck there. If you follow the tips detailed below, you will be in a very good position to find what you are looking for online.

Suzy Allen works for www.loopylove.com“> Loopylove - the UK’s first free online dating sites.

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Emotional Affair or Friendship

In a marriage, what are the limits for friendship with a member of the opposite sex? Who sets these limits? What is the difference between a friendship and an emotional affair? Is an emotional affair wrong? Does an emotional affair help the marriage by letting a partner vent out all emotional frustration, which otherwise he/she would not have done with his/her spouse? Or does it kill the marriage?

What is an emotional affair?

Most of us have friendships. Many of us are very close in some friendships. We share quite a lot in such friendships. But when one develops such a close friendship with one from the opposite sex, it can be termed as an emotional affair. Sharing intimate emotional details with someone of opposite sex is called an emotional affair. This the the common definition. It also includes the clause that you are keeping your partner unaware about the emotional bond you share with someone else.

Does it hurt marriage?

It hurts marriage if after knowing about the details shared, the spouse feels that mutual trust was violated. If the emotional affair becomes strong, it may so happen that one may begin sharing more emotional details with one’s friend than with one’s spouse. That hurts the spouse and may also lead to a break-up.

Why do people have emotional affair?

It is being debated that emotional affair is purely emotional or it is begun because of physical attraction. Does one need a friend of opposite sex to share emotional details? Why not one of your own sex? And why does one feel uncomfortable with one’s spouse about this bond? All pointers go in one direction - an emotional affair may be the way one wants to begin a physical relationship with another outside marriage. Otherwise if one want to have emotional sharing, or to vent out feelings, one can easily consult a psychiatrist and tell all to feel relieved and get advice. Or one can chose a friend of the same sex.

How to avoid an emotional affair?

One who is involved in an emotional affair needs to ask ownself- is this only emotional? Why do I need this person to talk about everything? One must reflect. Talk it out with one’s spouse. Let your head control your heart for a moment and think about the marriage and the bond. This may help in better understanding of the emotional affair and coming out of it.

Saying sorry after having an emotional affir is the first step. Send these eCards to say Sorry and begin rebuilding your marriage.

I Cannot Believe Myself,
I lost my senses,
and I am sorry

CD Mohatta is currently a dedicated content writer for screensavers, wallpapers and ecards in all the websites of ScreeneNetwork.com. Some of them are EcardUniverse.com and ValentinesDay-Cards.com

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Larry Page on Taking Risks

Larry Page, co-founder and President of Products of Google Inc., reveals in an interview with Andy Serwer, managing editor of Fortune Magazine, that he isn’t all about business and intensifying Google’s search engines; he cares a lot about making progress on things like renewable energy, safer cars, even mechanized farming. This is just one of the few things revealed about the reticent icon, in his interview last May 2008.

How he proposes change is not wholly through the latest technologies. Instead, he inculcates a certain way of thinking that people should look at things with a definitive approach. People should accept that failing is just a part of life. Risks are present in every venture. In the interview, Larry Page insists that too few people are willing to take risks; they like to stay in their comfort zones. Often, the people with the most insane ideas are the ones who’ve succeeded, he shares.

Page may have been referring to a lot of things when he discussed how risk takers leap into absolute darkness with nothing to light their way but faith. True, most people would not take risks because of the fear of failure. It is human nature that dictates fear, but it is also human nature to want to succeed.

Page here is not a philanthropist speaking but rather a philosopher, conveying his belief that life could be so much better if people start taking risks if they ever want to succeed. Page took a huge leap of faith when they started Google. Where he stands now is proof that he has stared down fear and followed his belief.

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Find Foreign Currency Exchange Rates

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